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Scientifically Proven Ways BDSM is Good for You

posted by Chris Valentine

 Bondage sex may not be for everyone, but studies suggest that couples who try it, enjoy healthier sex lives, and relationships.

It’s time to remove the ball gag on bondage sex. Recent studies have shown that couples who engage in bondage sex have stronger relationships, reduced stress, and healthier sex lives.

A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine shows that psychologically, couples who engage is kinky sex habits are stronger, both as a couple, and as individuals. It also suggests that BDSM should be considered a “recreational leisure”, rather than the psycho pathological process it was once thought of. Multiple other studies have also discovered the link between kink and good mental health. We spoke with resident sex expert Anaya* from Adult Products India. A company that offers sexual support and products for their customers – to find out what exactly it is that makes naughty sex so gosh darn good.

  1. Bondage Sex Reduces Stress

A study that was done using participant’s saliva showed that both dominant and submissive partners had lower levels of cortisol after engaging in bondage sex. Cortisol is a hormone that is released in times of stress. It controls how the body processes its sugar stores. Cortisol, when released in large amounts or in a prolonged state can dampen the immune system, cause muscle wasting, and reduce bone formation. Some research suggests it even causes the body to store unwanted fat.

  1. Bondage Sex Builds Better Communication

Bondage sex is built on a foundation of great communication. Always checking in to see where your partner is at mentally, and striving to meet their needs. Bondage sex couple also have few inhibitions when it comes to being able to communicate their non-sexual needs to their partners. Because bondage sex has clear distinctions between “play” and reality, partners are able to clearly define their own boundaries.

  1. Bondage Sex Strengthens Trust Bonds

Trust bonds are wildly important in shaping who and how we love. They’re also incredibly important in bondage sex. Partners must be able to absolutely trust their counterpart during play scenarios. “If someone is going to blindfold you and bind your wrists, without making you feel uncomfortable, you have to trust them completely.” Anaya tells us. “Many aspects of bondage sex play require one person to allow the other complete control, but in a way that coincides with their own wants and needs. You have to be able to trust that person to care about your wants and needs, because depending on the play, you may not be able to communicate those desires directly.”

  1. Bondage Sex Practitioners are More Open to New Experiences

Feeling completely at ease with your partner is one thing, but being able to express wants and desires, while playing a part in fulfilling another person’s, is huge for an individual. “Being open and accepting of change, or trusting that a quirk in the lineup can be exciting rather than disastrous can change the way people think about other types of change in their lives.” Anaya reminds us that being open to change is something that helps reduce anxieties in everyday life. “Bondage sex teaches its participants to be present”. Bondage sex partners have far fewer qualms about discussing what it is they want from play. They also harbor fewer reservations about joining in on another person’s fantasy. In fact, one study suggests that bondage sex individuals are “less neurotic, more extroverted, more open to new experiences, more conscientious, and less rejection-sensitive” in all aspects of their lives.

  1. Bondage Sex Encourages Fidelity

Because of the trust bonds and intimacy that is formed through bondage sex play, partners who engage in BDSM are less likely to stray. With open lines of communication and well-formed trust bonds, couples tend to put a lot of effort into relationships that include great bondage sex. “When you’re open with your desires, and you’ve found someone who can play along and add to that moment, you don’t want to give that up.” Anaya tells us that despite harsh “obscenity” laws in India, couples still go to great lengths to be able to express their desires and sexuality within their relationships.

While Anaya reminds us that “it’s important to note that bondage sex isn’t for just anyone. As it’s not the bondage sex itself that’s providing practitioners with these psychological benefits. It’s both partners being open and excited to try new things”.

She’s right. Studies find that it’s the personalities of the practitioners that garner the emotional release, not the handcuffs. However, don’t toss out the whips and blindfolds just yet. In a recent sexual survey, far more than half of the participants reported having favorable feelings towards dominant or submissive roles in the bedroom. So maybe it’s time you explore your wild side.

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